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MemoirRecoveryFamily Drama

Exactly Like My Father

by Howard Kane

4.4 (108 Reviews)

The worst thing anyone said about him

was that she was just like him.

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About the Book

The second book in The Daughter of a Drunk takes on the sentence adult children of alcoholics dread most — that they will turn out exactly like the parent they spent years trying to escape. Howard Kane writes about inherited patterns without excusing them, and about the daily, unglamorous work of proving that sentence wrong. It is written for anyone who grew up listening for a car in the driveway.

  • PAGES244
  • PUBLISHEDFeb 15, 2023
  • LANGUAGEEnglish
  • GENREMemoir

What Makes It Special

Painfully Honest

Written without flinching and without self-pity.

Hope Without Tidiness

Recovery here is slow, and treated as such.

You Will Recognise Someone

Family dynamics rendered with real accuracy.

Plain, Direct Writing

Clear enough to read on a difficult day.

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Book Summary

A fear that arrives in your own voice.

A pattern nobody chose.

The work of breaking it anyway.

Exactly Like My Father is a raw, hopeful book about growing up with an alcoholic parent, and about refusing to accept inheritance as a verdict.

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Book Review By Books Paradise

This is a hard book that never makes hardship the point. Kane writes about inherited harm with enough clarity that the hope at the end feels earned rather than offered.

OVERALL RATING4.4 / 5
What We Loved

Unflinching honesty

A genuinely useful perspective

Hope that feels earned

What Could Be Better

Heavy going in places

Some repetition between chapters

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